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Time for Me | Coach Shilpi’s Corner

timeformeThis one is specially for women blessed with the love and responsibility  of a family. I have always believed one can never have it all. So you have to  learn to choose and enjoy what you can and want to have.

a quiet, relaxed cup of tea in my very own ‘me time’. It was an ‘Aha’ moment for me – my time for my precious self.

I wrote this piece because the concept of ‘me time’ is very close to my heart. Once upon a time, I would take pride in running around being busy in activity 24×7 for my professional work, then my household work and then chores for my near and dear ones. And if there was still some nano minutes left, I would look for people and run around for them!

Until one fine day, a young friend of mine coaxed me to come out of my tangled web to enjoy a simple cup of tea – a quiet, relaxed cup of tea in my very own ‘me time’. It was an ‘Aha’ moment for me – my time for my precious self. How could I have denied this simple pleasure of life. And then there was no looking back.

The transition to creating moments, minutes and hours of simple ‘me time’ was not so simple. Not because I found it difficult but because people around me including my family were too used to me. So what do you need to do to break the pattern?

1. Train Your Brain

Yes, brains have set neural connections which form the pattern of habit. The bad news is set patterns are difficult to break. The good news is, it’s easy to create new neural patterns by new behaviours. So just go ahead, act differently from the past. Whether having a cup of tea with a friend or all by yourself in a cafe or pursuing a new hobby that just takes a couple of hours a week. Do different this week or this month and your brain will  create new patterns.

2. Train Their Brain

Now that you self committed and are happy about this change, talk it out with your family, friends and people at the workplace. Set their expectations and give them a chance to cope with your new ‘me time’ behaviour. They might crib and carp, but when they do, remind them with a smile and not with a grin. Soon their brains will create new neural patterns and they will come to accept your new self.

3. Delegate More

Just as you can’t have it all, you can’t do it all. So plan and delegate work and responsibilities. I just went on a month-long holiday, delegating all my work to employees, friends and my mother! The business ran as smoothly as when I was around, if not better!

4. Be a part of Gang of Girls

There are many more like you. Be a part of group of girls who want to have fun. It makes you feel less guilty and slowly the guilt disappears. Now is the beginning of true ‘me time’

5. Activities for Me Time

Create a list of activities for your ‘me time’. It’s easy to just sit in front of television and feel extremely lethargic and guilty in this precious time. If you are ready with your list, you would be ready to GO.

The bad news is time flies. The good news is you are the pilot!

So girls – wake up, put on your dancing shoes and start creating the magical ‘me time’ for yourselves.

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