Birthdays and year-ends, I think need to be a time for spring cleaning of some sort.
The baggage we have collected over the year, the clutter we have amassed, it’s time to look at each item anew and decide to junk it or keep it. But letting go somehow is never easy. Even if it’s a horrendous outfit you purchased in a moment of madness or the ghastly lamp your aunt gave you, which you wish the dog will jump at, and break into smithereens!
We are hoarders by nature and keep accumulating possessions as well as emotions. As every year passes little do we realise how much they are weighing us down. The guilt over some oversight we committed, a grudge against an old friend, the insecurity about a failing we perceive in ourselves, a constant critic who is part of our lives, all become a burden we carry, unknown and unacknowledged!
As I get older however, I realise I have no patience with baggage of this kind and have consciously been working at streamlining it out of my life. So some years ago, I decided to get rid of all negative people in my life with one swift stroke! People who constantly complain, crib and whine about their problems, or always find fault with the world, are no longer part of my life, however dear they may have been to me in the past. I don’t have the energy to listen to their petulant grievances nor the desire to help them. I wish one day they will get out of their misery, but I refuse to get dragged down while they wallow in it.
We are hoarders by nature and keep accumulating possessions as well as emotions. As every year passes little do we realise how much they are weighing us down.
The following year I got rid of issues with my self-image. I am fine the way I am, thank you very much I decided. And so I am! The following year I got rid of my temper and irritability. Invariably and unfortunately we end up taking out our frustrations on our mothers. Just because they listen and never judge and just because they are there! So now I am quite calm around most things and never ever cantankerous around my mom. She deserves better.
As I make my world lighter, it also seems to have become richer!
And so one by one, I have got rid of the desire to follow the latest fashion or the fear I had of certain things and even of not being able to say no when I wanted to! I have got over not speaking my mind, of wanting every one to like me and specifically of wasting time doing meaningless things like attending social functions when I can better spend it with people I like or with books I want to read or shows I want to see.
As I make my world lighter, it also seems to have become richer! So let go of that grouse you had against one of your closest pals, the feeling that your nose is too long or your thighs too thunderous. Get rid of that person who always finds fault with what you do, and see the incredible lightness it brings to your life. Go on. Try it!