Tell us about yourself as an Inspirational Woman, your background and what you do currently.
I am a laid back person. I daydream and I believe in human goodness. I am an idealist most of the times. I love long afternoons, lying on my bed watching the tree that flirts with my window. The smell of the morning sun makes me believe in life and hope for the world one more time. I am a praying woman. I pray whenever I feel. I pray in my balcony, on my bed, in my kitchen and sometimes while walking in the park. I pray when days are bright and when they are not. I am grateful for all that is. Thank you is my favourite word.
I was born and brought up in a very small town in Assam. It’s called Rupai. In fact, we still have a Panchayat and not a town committee. Whilst I was growing up, our place was still settling. We were the first house in our street then – now we are the fourth.
Growing up was carefree. I was never ever forced by my parents to do anything. In my childhood I was a slow learner, as they call it now, and people thought I was kind of stupid. However, that was the best part of it. I just needed to pass from one class to another. I had absolutely no pressure to do anything. I was too shy. I spoke too little. I could stare at the TV for too long. I was late for everything.
I have two elder sisters. They excelled in everything. But kudos to my parents, they never asked me to be like them. I merely passed from one class to another, wherein my sisters topped the school. I used to flunk in my unit tests and mid terms. I used to just say sorry and kind of study for a day and then forget all about it. My life revolved around playing with my two cousins and going to school because I loved my friends. Friends always loved me and I still have some amazing long standing friends.
However, this I know for a fact, my parents had a looming fear, what if I won’t be able to face the world one day.
I used to hide or act asleep when guests used to come. I would not reply when someone asked my name. I would not comb my hair for days. Lose stuff every day. But I loved stories. I did not like text books. I started reading early. I still remember the whole Mahabharata the way Grandfather narrated it to us. It still has a huge impact on my writings.
Back to now, destiny has its own way, it turns table at its own whim. At present, I am extremely social, overly at time (over at times). I am a writer; a theatre activist and I give public lectures.
Tell us about any current projects or initiatives you wish to promote.
At present I am writing a love story. I am creating stories based on real people and emotions. With Aatish, there are two plays in pipeline in September and October. I also have two invites to speak in colleges.
What has been your biggest challenge in achieving your success?
I really had to work on my self-esteem and self worth to get myself here. I know I have a long way to go and that also means I need to keep working on myself. My greatest challenge was that I kept selling myself very short. That really took a toll over me.
What has been your greatest achievement personally?
That I am unafraid to speak for myself. Now I don’t hide who I am and what I feel. That’s the greatest victory ever.
If you weren’t doing what you do now, what would you be doing?
I have no clue. This is what I wanted and what I dreamt of and it manifested. I am deeply grateful.
Who has been your biggest inspiration?
It changes time to time. At this point I can’t take my eyes off Pullela Gopichand and PV Sindhu. Their dedication, focus and hard work beat every ode. I am just looking at them and hope to learn something.
What does the future hold for you?
The future is like the universe. It holds infinite possibilities. I see myself writing as much as I can and trying to touch one life at least in a day. I hope to travel. I hope my words touch lives. I hope to reach out to more and more audiences. Last but not the least, I hope I share this magnificent journey with a wonderful partner. I hope the universe is listening. I hope I never stop getting better at what I do!
About Paromita Bardoloi
I am an independent writer and a theatre activist. My writings over the years have been published in many national websites and magazines, including the Huffington Post, National Geographic, Women’s Web, Bonobology, Femina, The Quint and so on.
My writings have mostly dealt with female empowerment. I strongly believe it’s not only laws or education that can empower our women. Empowerment is an inner process that includes self-love and self-esteem. Over the years, many women have benefitted from them. Thus my work continues to create an equal better India. I am also invited to be part of panel discussions and guest lectures.
Since 2011, I have been actively involved in street theatre. I am a part of the street theatre group Aatish, in Delhi. Our plays have often dealt with women at its centre. From sexual abuse to pre-natal care, I have travelled across the country that includes remote villages to perform. Street theatre has been very influential in bringing up the conversations that people generally avoid.
Lastly, over a decade I have been actively involved in many NGOS like Aarohi, Aman Biradari, Manzil and Make a Wish foundation, to encourage children welfare and education.